The Rut We Know

Most of us can identify.  You don't have to have a special needs child or relative to relate.  The devil we know is better than the devil we don't.  The unknown is scary.  We don't walk in the dark because we can't see what is there,

Special needs caregiving is the very definition of this line of thinking,  The life balance is so delicate, so volatile, so dynamic, that to take any chance at all is unthinkable.

Yet nothing changes until something changes,  We can't wait around until a sign drops from the sky and smacks us in the face.  It just doesn't work that way.  We have been given the ability to think and to reason.  So it's our job to see the right thing and DO the right thing.

A few months ago I was miserable in my job,  It was so bad that I knew I wasn't doing the best that I could do.  But I was making the money needed to pay the bills, so I would just continue on.  Fortunately I got a call from another company who wanted to bring me on.  I had moments of apprehension telling me to not take a risk.  Too much on the line to take a chance.  There are mortgage payments, insurance, etc.

I took a leap of faith.  Just like when Tyler moved to his new home, I trusted what I knew was the sensible solution,  I decided that fear and complacency weren't a good reason to stand still.  I took a chance.  I stopped being a victim and I took control.

Today I like my job.  Tyler is adjusted to his home now of 3 years.  As hard as each move was to do, I've not looked back in any form of regret.

Please read this carefully....we get one life.  That's all.  We don't know when it will end.  Our special person gets one life as well, and they deserve the absolute best that life has to offer,  If something isn't working, it's time for a change.  One of the most profound statements I have heard is that the only thing worse than a bad situation for 100 days is allowing a bad situation for 101 days.

If you know it in your heart that things aren't right....change them,  Be unafraid.  Be fearless.  Have tremendous faith and trust in yourself that there is nothing to fear in the dark.  Any decision made out of love and from a sound heart will find the right way.

Be well and God Bless.    Tom