Thursday, July 26, 2018

And Then This Happened

Its been a rough week for all of us....

Tyler currently is not feeling well.  His digestive system will slow at times and become filled up with gas.  The result is he becomes quite bloated and will sometimes even get sick because things aren't able to cycle through.  He also has ringworm which is being treated with a cream at the moment.  Poor guy....he deserves a free pass from ever getting ailments.

On Monday I left work as usual, hopped in my Jeep, and it wouldn't start.  In fact, it didn't make a sound, turn over, or anything.  We tried to use jumper cables to no avail.  We were able to pop the clutch and get it to start just enough for me to drive it to my mechanic.

But OH NO...this was not the end of it.  Since we have been getting rain by the buckets over the last week, our basement decided to become an indoor swimming pool.  Carpet ruined, miscellaneous items ruined, drywall ruined.  What a mess.

Shall I go to the rooftop and scream at the top of my lungs?  Shall I go home and yell at the dogs for no reason?  Shall I throw a tantrum??  You know what I did?????

I remembered how blessed I am, and everything felt okay.  I remembered that needing to fix my Jeep means I am blessed enough to have one.  Needing to repair my home means I have a roof over my head.  Friends, family, and co-workers offered to lend a hand.  Neighbors continue to ask how things are going.  That means we have people who care about us and love us.  Tyler is safe and supremely cared for even when he feels bad.

Carpet is just fabric and padding.  Something that you walk on.  A Jeep is just a piece of machinery that helps you come and go.  

The important things can never be lost no matter how much it rains. 

I am blessed.

Be well and God bless.     Tom  

Monday, July 23, 2018


On Sunday Pastor Dave talked about GIFTS.  The gifts being talked about were those that we can lend to the church, and to mankind.  That each of us are born with, or develop, certain abilities that we can share with other people.  

My mother-in-law and I are doing a sugar cake fundraiser for Tyler's Bibles.  Our goal is to raise about $400 so that 10 more Bibles can be purchased for those who need them.  My part is to come up with the idea, bring it to life, and sell it.  Her part is to make the cakes.  We are using our particular gifts in combination to reach our goal.  Could Mom do my part and I do hers?  Probably to some extent....but we are better if we stick to what we know we do well.  Mom believes this so emphatically that she has barred me from the kitchen when we make these fundraising cakes.

We cannot overlook Tyler's gift in this endeavor. He was given a smile, a spirit, a soul which speaks to every person with an open heart and an ability to listen to it.  He shines love from his heart that inspires people to use their own gifts.  Perhaps this is the most blessed gift of all; inspiring others to use their gifts.  It is love perpetuating love.

  My wife on the other hand doesn't know what her gift is.  In fact, she believes (incorrectly) that she may not have one at all.  She would be the first to tell you she isn't a public speaker, inventor, teacher, or writer by nature.  What she forgets is that she is one of those rare people that succeeds in supporting others.  

To explain, Pastor Dave is a gifted speaker.  BUT, unless he had a solid supporting cast around him doing great work it would be exponentially more difficult to deliver the message.  He has to have someone operate the sound and video board.  He needs a Music Director.  He needs Joan to set up the board.  He needs Cele to work behind the scenes to have food ready and do the nursery and generally keep him from getting out of line.

A GIFT is not necessarily standing a public and visible thing, it can simply be providing the foundation for which another person can stand and use theirs.  My wife gave Tyler the very life that he now uses to inspire others.  She keeps my world together so that I can chase inspiration where it leads me.  

Love each Tyler does....and I promise you will discover your gifts very quickly.

Be well and God Bless.    Tom

Sunday, July 15, 2018

Eye Saw the Light

I was at the eye doctor yesterday.  The doctor and I continue to ponder how much longer it will be until I need to have reading glasses.  False teeth and a rocking chair are right around the corner!

As I have written before, it seems that I have a habit of striking up conversations with other special needs parents.  This day would be no different.  

After the appointment I went to the check-out area.  I struck up a light conversation with the young girl (lets call her Heather), telling her how much I like Dr. Lisa.  She proceeded to tell me how well the doctor always treats the staff.  Heather continued to explain that she is a special needs mom, and the doctor supports her in so many ways.  I could tell that without that crucial emotional support Heather's life would be much more difficult.  I eagerly gave her this blog address and welcomed her to come read any time.  I hope God blesses her with peace, comfort, and strength for all of her days.

An important takeaway is how valuable Dr. Lisa is in her life.  Because the doctor supports her and allows her the ability to tend to her child as needed, Heather has less pressure in her life.  In the work history of both Robin and I we know what its like to have supportive bosses, and what its like to work for non-supportive bosses.  The difference is incredible.  Many special needs parent WANT to work hard and earn a decent living while at the same time being there for the child as much as humanly possible.  It's like living a double life really.  

For those of us who play the roles of boss, or neighbor, or friend, or any other role alongside of a special needs parent, please remember how just the slightest show of support will change their lives.  And if you are a special needs parent, do everything in your power to work for people that will give you that support.  After and your child deserve it.

Be well and God bless.   Tom